Hey CJ,

Lets talk. Although we have been together a long time, I think over the last two years we have grown apart. I know this is cliché, but it really is me and not you. I have grown and changed in ways I could have never imagined and I owe it all to those personal and professional failures two years ago. While most people would be afraid to move on, THAT failure changed everything for me. On that day, I moved from being a company man, to becoming fed up, and driven to find my own voice. No matter the cost, I knew I had to change my life. The transition has been scary at times and has made me more determined at other times.

That brings me to this conversation tonight.

I  know you have heard this before but it’s not you, its me. I’m looking for more than you can offer me. Two years ago I was happy and content with thinking small, now I burn with a desire to change the world.  I know that is harsh to hear but I don’t want there to be any confusion as to why I’m breaking up with you. You still want to be comfortable, I want to disrupt the status quo. The risk for reward mindset you had when you were younger, died a long time ago for the sake of financial stability, and that shit has killed our relationship. You have become limited and I desire with every breath of my body the limitless.

You have not helped me to grow. You are okay with me staying the same, because you need me to feed into the fear of stretching beyond, because leaving you behind is your biggest fear. That no longer works for me. I have become obsessed with stretching my imagination beyond limits and fear no longer holds me down.

I know you have heard this before but it’s not you, its me. I don’t want to place any more blame on you, especially when I fail during the growth process. I know you are quick to provide comfort when things get hard and that security has made me too comfortable. From now on, everything is on me, and me alone. I don’t want to make anymore excuses, I choose to #ownit.

See you around, take care of yourself.

-CJ